Q&A: Is it safe to have sex when pregnant?

It’s pretty normal to wonder if having sex during pregnancy will somehow hurt your baby. So we’ve asked Mum’s Grapevine expert, midwife Edwina Sharrock to give us the low-down on doing the baby dance, with a baby on board!

Edwina Sharrock expert midwife

Ever since finding out that I’m pregnant, I have been too scared to have sex with my husband. It’s taken us a long time to get pregnant and I’m just petrified that something will go wrong. Is it safe to have sex during pregnancy?

Claire, Mum's Grapevine Group Member

The short answer, yes!

In general, it is safe to have sex when pregnant and can even be beneficial for a healthy pregnancy. It’s worth noting that there are a number of instances whereby your healthcare provider may advise that you abstain from sex while pregnant. Some of these reasons include:

  • If your membranes have ruptured or if you are leaking amniotic fluid
  • If you have any history of premature birth or preterm labour
  • Your cervix has started opening prematurely, which is what’s known as cervical insufficiency
  • You’ve experienced unexplained vaginal bleeding
  • You have placenta previa – which is when your placenta partly or completely covers your
    cervix
  • In some instances, if you’re pregnant with multiples (twins, triplets etc.)

In most cases though, continuing to have sex during pregnancy is absolutely OK and encouraged! There will naturally be changes to your libido at different times throughout your pregnancy, with tiredness, morning sickness and hormones playing into how interested you are in being intimate with your partner at different times. This is totally normal and common, so don’t be worried if at times you simply don’t feel like it while at others you can’t keep your hands off your partner!

The most important thing is to communicate about how you’re feeling and be open to finding different ways to be intimate, especially during those last few weeks! It might be worth sharing this article with your partner – you’d be amazed at how many men are worried that they might break something or even hurt the baby. Put their mind at ease and reassure them that there’s nothing to be worried about.

For all the details about sex during pregnancy, including some of my personal experiences (*too much information alert*!), check out Sex In Pregnancy, everything you want to know but are too embarrassed to ask.

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Edwina Sharrock is a registered midwife and mother of two. She’s also the founder of Birth Beat – an online antenatal course that is simple, easy and convenient to watch from the privacy of your home. Birth Beat includes prenatal yoga, a complete prenatal course, plus breastfeeding, sleep and settle. All delivered to you in easy to watch videos.